Introduction: Hello! I am Esther, a Brazilian living just outside of Stuttgart for the last six years now. I come from a big metropolitan city in Brazil so Stuttgart made me feel not so lost once I arrived. As for many immigrants, LOVE brought me to Germany and I dare say I wouldn’t change it for anything in this world.

I came to Germany freshly married to my husband, whom I met in the U.S.A. as we were both undergoing an academic exchange program. I had just graduated as a physical therapist and the feeling of “what will I do now?” was intense and almost palpable. Now, with one almost two-year-old son, another baby on the way and devoted to a whole new career as a professional photographer, the feeling of “This is where I belong!” has taken over.

2. First memory you have since becoming a parent…

Oh the birth of my first son, Arthur. So many memories just flood in as I think of when the contractions started and got admitted into the maternity ward. But I must say, the feeling I had when I had him in my arms for the first time, hearing his fragile cry searching for me is what makes me feel like a mom the most. That moment right there was as if the entire world had hit pause so I could savor each second of that unique experience.

3. What is the biggest challenge you have faced as a new Mother?

As a new mom, I believe my biggest challenge as a mom up to today is to not feel guilty over every little thing. I keep reminding myself I am the best mom for my son, because he is the best son for me, and that seems to help sometimes. Not having a support net in Germany definitely takes every challenge to the next level.

4. How becoming a parent has changed you…

I guess my husband is the best to answer this question and I believe he would say, not for the first time, it has made me feisty. (laughing as I, in denial, agree with it).

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5. How would you describe the experience of parenting abroad in Germany as an expat?

Oh man! It would be better exemplified as riding a roller coaster with no seatbelt and while trying to hold on to stay safe (sane).
But I love doing it here. My favorite part might be taking him to amazing playgrounds, being in nature most of the time and being able to offer him a life I could only have dreamed of in Brazil.

6. What advice do you have for fellow new expat parents?

Take it easy and one step at a time. It is not a race or a competition. You and your kid are partners in this, both are learning how to BE, and it isn’t easy for any of us. Find other parents and exchange experiences, one can learn a lot just by listening.

7. Favorite resource for families in Germany?

Search for Kinder Cafés in your area, it makes it possible to chat with a friend while the kids enjoy some fun time as well. Search for associations in your area that promote activities for kids, events such as Flohmarkts (flea markets), and play dates.

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